Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Love's Many Guises by Faith Bicknell-Brown

Our guest today is Faith Bicknell-Brown. Faith’s work has appeared in a wide range of genres such as: Would That It Were, Touch Magazine, GC Magazine, Ohio Writer Magazine (non-fiction), Waxing and Waning (Canada), and The Istanbul Literature Review (Turkey) just to name a few. She was a regular contributor to Gent under her pseudonym, Molly Diamond. She has also had fiction published in Hustler’s Busty Beauties, Penthouse Variations, Twenty 1 Lashes, and has become a regular contributor to Ruthie’s Club. In addition, Faith has several e-books and some print titles published under Zinnia Hope and J. Emberglass.

For two years, Faith served as the co-editor of The Tenacity Times. In October 2001, she took the position of romance and horror editor for Wild Child Publishing and served as the managing editor for Wild Child as well as its sister division, Freya’s Bower. She is represented by TriadaUS Literary Agency.

Check out Faith's latest release at Freya's Bower. Conspiracy of Angels is a tale of forbidden love and scandalous secrets. Grab one of the few print copies left and get the discounted price too!

Welcome Faith! Now, let's see what the wise Ms. Bicknell-Brown has to say about love....

Love comes in many guises. We’ve all experienced puppy love, and most of us know what it’s like to love a person but have personalities so different we want to throttle one another.

There’s the love for a parent, the love for a child. We have love for our dearest friends, and we even have love for those cyber pals whom we’ve known for several years and have never met face to face.

There’s the love for the god we worship, and there’s the love of life too.

However, that one love we all covet is the rarest of all. That all-consuming love for a significant other, that one special someone who we’ll spend the rest of our life with.

And what’s odd about love is that it often seems like the real thing, but then heartache rears its ugly head.

So how do we recognize that special love? How does a person tell the difference between true love and a temporary love?

My parents possess and enjoy the rare love, but they were lucky. They married when Mom was 17 and Dad was 19. Two weeks after they were married, Dad was shipped off to Viet Nam. Forty-five years later, they’re still together. They’ve weathered the worst and love each other all the more for those times.

My aunt, Elma, and my uncle, Don (God rest his soul), married when she was 14 and he was 19. They were together nearly 60 years when Don was called home. They had many children, and as a result, Elma now has 19 great-grandchildren.

So what’s they’re secret?

I haven’t the foggiest. I’ve been married four times, but my current husband is the love of my life. I don’t know why I married the other three besides the fact that I ‘loved’ them. Well, two of them. The first was a case of young and stupid, lol.

Did I learn anything from those past ‘loves’? Sure, and that’s why I’m writing this blog. Like I said, love comes in many guises.

My advice to the lovers out there? Take it slow, keep your eyes and ears open, and don’t take everything at face value. Be honest. Ask your potential mate questions, and never be the object of any sort of abuse. Never.

Love is both giving and taking. Without both, you need to ask yourself: is it love?


Jambrea said...

Great post Faith.

I think sometimes people confuse lust with love. :) It happens to the best of it and the ride is fun while it last. But you're right, finding the special someone takes time and work. But it's worth it. :)

Lex Valentine said...

I wish there was some secret we could ferret out like hackers cracking code. Sure would make life easier, wouldn't it? *wink*

Faith said...

Hello ladies! Thank you so much for popping in to read my blog today!

Rie McGaha said...

Nice post Faith, and your grandparents get a big AWWWWWWW! from me. That's so sweet. My grandparents were married nearly 60 years as well, and my parent-in-laws were married 64 years. My friends Jeff & Judy married during high school in '74, having known each other since grade school and said they fell in love then! What makes love last? I think it's knowing that love isn't what you say, but what you do.

My first marriage lasted 54 days! My second lasted 15 years, then he decided he needed a new wife and no kids! I then married a wonderful man who not only loved me, but loved my children and has been a wonderful husband, father and grandfather for the past 10 years come Feb. 17th!

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone and here's hoping love finds you for the rest of your life!

mymargee said...

I am glad that you have found happiness this time. My grandparents were married 69 years and my parents for 42 years, but I have yet to meet "the one." I have no idea what keeps you together for so many years. My mother says for her it is the lack of desire to retrain another husband. LMAO! Great post!

Anthology Authors said...

I would say the secret to love and having a good relationship has to do with respect: respect for yourself and for others. Often, we have neither, and that creates problems. And it goes both ways. Both in the relationship must treat each other with respect.

My grandparents on my father's side were married for over 60 years. My parents were married for over 40 before my dad's death. I married too late to reach the 60 year mark, unless both of us live into the mid 90s, but I hope mine lasts and our love endures as theirs did.

I am glad you found yours, Faith. :)

Good post.

Faith said...

My hubby is the same way about my children, Rie. He's taken them as his own, and it's all good because their dad isn't interested in them anyway unless he can use them as tools of control. Men like your hubby and mine are rare.

Margie, the right guy will come along. And it'll happen when you least expect it.

Hi Marci! Thanks for stopping by. Wow, 60 years is a long time. Heard of a local couple a few years ago who actually reached their 75th wedding anniversary, which shocked me. Imagine 75 years of marriage!

M.E Ellis said...

I can't explain it, just know I have it, and I'm grateful for it every day.


Walt Giersbach said...

Faith, love and lust are sometimes confused because both words start with L and have the same number of letters. Magazine ads shoot for lust, however. Lust goes to the head of the line every time. Nobody would pay seven bucks for a magazine offering love unless it was making a pitch for adopting cats. I thought Caroline understood that, even if the magazine cost a dollar.

Love is full of self-control and responses measured in eyedroppers. Love grows wrinkles before you recognize it’s tapping at the window. It’s what your folks are working on if they’re up to anything at their age.

Ah, but lust leaves a trail of bra and panties and locks decorous behavior out in the hallway. The Fed’s Ben Bernanke would tell you lust is critical for stimulating the economy, which is a substantial part of our American Way. Would Pfizer make billions selling a pill for devotion? Would Victoria’s Secret send out catalogs to make people like you? I don’t think so.

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Ta, Walt Giersbach

Faith said...

Emmy! Nice to see you!

Hi Walt! Leave it to you to make me laugh. Cool comment, my friend, thank you.

Lara Z said...

I've been married 18 years. I knew it when I met him that we'd be together for the long haul. My parents and grandparents all had long marriages, so did my husband's extended family. There's always been something very comfortable in our relationship, right from the start... no melodramatics, solid honesty, and no secrets. So I really believe that's where the once-in-a-lifetime love starts, and what makes it last. It also doesn't hurt that we are bedroom-compatible. LOL.

Faith said...

Good morning, Lara! To be honest, I truly believe there must be chemistry and great compatibility in the bedroom for a reltionship to work too. Everyone needs that special something in the sex realm, so if a couple can't get along under the sheets, then there's gonna be some upset between the couple.

brynneth said...

Up until fairly recently, I didn't really beleive in the idea of true love. Then I spent a week with the most amazing man... if I had tried to imagine the perfect person for me, I wouldn't have got close to how great he is. Am still very fuzzy and misty eyed, even though we are not on opposite sides of the Atlantic. Love will find a way...

Faith said...

I'm so happy for you, Brynneth!!! Oh, what a fantastic and touching comment! I'm rooting for you, hon. We all are!